I Do…Well I Did Part 1

Do as you will.  As long as it makes you happy.  You have to do what is best for you.  Sound familiar?  When it comes to marriage, people are only looking at themselves.  He doesn’t make me happy anymore.  I fell out of love. I only stayed for the sake of the kids.  I’m too young to have to endure this for the rest of my life. I’ve prayed about it; God just isn’t doing anything. I’ve tried everything; Nothing seems to work.   Really!?!

Why did you get married in the first place?  Did you truly love your spouse when you swore an oath to stay with that person no matter what (For better or worse) for the rest of your life?  God is quite clear on His view of marriage.  It is extremely precious to Him.  Nearly half of marriages end in divorce today in the United States.  This saddens me to the core.  And if you do your research, you will see that it is women who are filing for the divorce more than the men.  Is it because they were beaten, their husband abuses substances, or he cheated on her? Some times this is the reason. And these are actual reasons. However, the overwhelming excuse is because the wife isn’t happy: (delighted, pleased, or glad, as over a particular thing) or doesn’t feel appreciated: (to be grateful or thankful for) anymore.  Poor thing. Can you say selfish?  I don’t know of any marriage vows that state ” I will so long as you…..” Her focus is on herself.  Not on her husband and not on God.  She is no longer willing to sacrifice for her marriage.  She is no longer willing to work on keeping her promise to both God and man.  Women are no longer prepared for marriage as young ladies.  It’s every woman for her self.  You might hear of a “sisterhood” among women, but it is usually geared toward the woman getting the most out of whatever the subject might be.  Entitlement is what these women seek.  “I’m entitled (I deserve)to be happy.”  They do not feel the joy and happiness in serving their spouse.

Women have told me that when they were first married, (The honeymoon years) that they would have bent over backwards for their man.  Then over time they have allowed other things to fill up their days.  Jobs, kids, family, friends, self.  They have stretched themselves out to the point of “no return”. When they get to this point they know that they have to give something up in order to keep their sanity. And what do they choose? Their husbands.  They have placed everything else as a higher priority than the man who loves them. They have forgotten how to keep their husbands interested in them.  They have forgotten the joy they got when they did something for their husband that made him love her more.  They have forgotten Who made them and why.  After God, Three in One, your husband should be next in line.  Not the job. Not the kids. Not family and friends. And certainly not yourself.

There are numerous books out there that talk about how to have a good marriage.  There is only one that truly counts.  When you read it, you will find that God tells us how to behave in every situation of our lives.  Including marriage. Tomorrow I will be going through some of the scriptures that guide women through marriage.

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One Response

  1. Well said. Too many people look to themselves before anyone else, including God and then run from one thing to another, one person to the next looking for that elusive happy evere after ending. They have yet to realize a happy, full life stems from being devoted to service of others. Great post!

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