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We Just Need To Practice

Hey there everyone,

I hope that everyone had a safe and happy Christmas and New Year.  I most certainly did.  My oldest came home from college for Christmas, my daughter turned 17 (She is making me and the hubby old very fast.)  She also got a job right before her birthday (Which is one week before Christmas).  We all celebrated my three holidays together at home with no big hoop la.  Which was just fine with all of us.

At the beginning of each year you might be finding yourself looking back.  People like to see what if anything they got accomplished and what they didn’t.  They make new goals for the upcoming months.  They try to adopt new, better habits.  One thing I have found is that they don’t set these out on a day-to-day basis.  No they spread them out over an entire year.  Yes, I realize that there are some that may take that long.  But ask yourself when you wake up in the morning, what is the first thing that comes to your mind? Is it the tasks that need to be done? Or perhaps a soreness/pain you may have for sleeping different then you needed.  I could list a whole number of things that ; not only have I said to myself, but have heard others as well.  We are to begin each day a new. With the joy of the Lord.   Not with bitterness or need.  In order to do this all it takes is …… practice.  Practice means that you are trying each and every day with all you mind, body, and soul.  Practice means you won’t get it perfected or even do it some days.  It means you are trying.  That you are actually doing it with a good heart.  Practice mean you have taken you out of it and are doing it for the Lord.

I don’t understand why people are putting so much disgust on themselves at the beginning of each year.  They haven’t lost enough weight, gotten any healthier, saved enough money, given enough money and so on. So what?!? Do the best you can with what you have daily and let God handle the rest.  Before you know it; it will be a new healthier, happier, habit and a wonderful start to your day.  Now for those who might be keeping score, I know that I didn’t write a whole lot last year, but within that time that I did these are the words I used most.


Angels, Bible, Child, Children, Christ, Christian, Church, Churches, Control, Faith, Family, Glory, God, Good, Gospel, Grace, Hear, Hearts, Jesus, Kids, Learn, Lessons, Life, Listen, Lord, Love, Luke, Man, Marriage, Matthew, Mercy, Mistakes, MS, Music, ORU, Parents, Pastor, People, Religion, Speak, Spirit, Trouble, Women, Word, Work.


I like to leave you with a song that I heard on a CD that my sister had a long time ago.  The song might be an old one but it still holds.


The Attack is ON

Ok, so lately (like the last 15 years or so), we have been under attack.  We Americans, We Christians, We married, We stay at home moms.  Now I’m not a person who likes to go looking for a fight, but enough is enough.  Recently, we (Americans) were under attack in Boston.  The hubby and I just happened to have the t.v. on the Fox channel and watched in shock and not so shocked amazement.  We are shocked over the fact that people still have so little care over killing people that they don’t even know.  Killing people of all ages, nationalities, and beliefs.  People, who have put everything aside, who have been training for who knows how long,  to compete in a physical race that most of us wouldn’t even know how to begin except for placing our feet on the starting line.  And after the first line of bloodshed and mayhem, we then pray.  We pray for everyone.  All of those who were running, all who were waiting on the side for their loved ones, all those who were volunteering  all those who went running towards the destruction instead of running away, all those who couldn’t contact each other, all of the doctors and nurses who would have to deal with the trauma coming  through the hospital doors.

We were not so shocked that there are still terrorists running around in our country.  We were not so shocked that the government messed up (again) in allowing them to be here.  We were not so shocked that they were able to get the supplies that they needed to pull of this mass destruction.  And sadly we were not so shocked to see that they, (the ones who pulled it off)  were so young.

When I am asked to pray for someone, I do it with my full heart and soul.  Because I believe in the power of prayer.  But if I express my belief in the Bible or of Jesus, I get criticized for doing it.  I get labeled a hater. All over twitter and Facebook people were sending out words of encouragement and prayers.  I did not see one person telling another to stop.  I did however see a lot of people asking for more and more prayer though.  Funny, how when they don’t see what else can be done by them, they turn to the Christian and ask them to pray.  Without a moment of hesitation or guilt for the words they had just used to try to cut you down with.

If you are married to the opposite sex, lookout!  You are going to (if you haven’t already) get hit with mean and ugly looks from those who are trying to get away with marrying the same-sex.  I’ll be quite honest with you, when I was a teen, I rarely saw or heard about homosexuals.  When I did, I thought that it was a “phase or trendy” thing that would go away with some time (or when common sense kicked in).  But now, I supposed to believe that my marriage is in the minority of what people think is acceptable!  I think that these are the people who need the most prayer.  I do believe that they are lost in what is the difference between right and wrong.

And now I’ve got this Melissa Harris-Perry lady telling the world that their children, my children don’t “belong” to me.  That they belong to the community! What a load of bull!!!  After I raise them they become a part of the community that they choose to live in.  In the manner that they choose to live. Not the community telling me how to raise my child that God gave to me.  I don’t go at this alone.  I have God, my husband, my friends and family on both sides, and Church.  And I would love to see if (which I am really thinking that this is the case) she is trying to get God and the Church out of my children’s lives.  And then at the end of her little video she has “lead forward”, which is an attempt to show that she supports Obama. Here is the link to the video if you would like to see it.   http://www.nbcnews.com/id/51498490/t/caring-children-share-your-story/#.UXi7OaJJ7DM      As if that is in her favor.  Not where I am concerned it isn’t.

So now I sit here typing as all of my rights are being taken away from me and I’m not supposed to do anything about it.  I am no longer allowed to be me, myself in a land that I was born in, which is supposed to be free.  Which is supposed to have given me rights and has had those rights upheld for hundred of years from men, and now women, who have died for you and me.  Yes, my friend, the attack in on.  I’ll just leave you with these few scriptures to think about before you leave.  John 7:7  The world cannot hate you; but me it hateth, because I testify of it, that the works thereof are evil.    2 Peter 2:12-15    But these, as natural brute beasts, made to be taken and destroyed, speak evil of the things that they understand not; and shall utterly perish in their own corruption; And shall receive the reward of unrighteousness, as they that count it pleasure to riot in the day time.  Spots they are and blemishes, sporting themselves with their own deceivings while they feast with you; Having eyes full of adultery, and that cannot cease from sin; beguiling unstable souls: an heart they have exercised with covetous practices; cursed children: Which have forsaken the right way , and are gone astray, following the way of Balaam the son of Bo-sor, who loved the wages of unrighteousness;

From Mother To Mom

The other day while I was looking around the net, there was a comment left on a site asking for advice for a mom who wanted to go off and do what she wanted to do in life.  This was her first child and she claims that she knows the importance on staying at home with her child but she wanted “me” time and was really asking for permission to go to work and do what she wanted to do.  She was feeling guilty and wanted the ok from someone so that she could justify it to herself. All I could do was just sit there stunned at the thought of her putting her child on the back burner and placing herself of higher priority.

Unfortunately, this happens all the time.  Woman thinks she wants a husband, woman gets her husband.  Woman thinks she wants a baby or two, woman gets a baby or two.  Woman thinks she wants a job, woman gets a job.  Woman doesn’t understand that “her time” is gone from the moment she said the ” I do’s”.  She has then committed to sharing her life with her husband.  She has then committed to sharing her life with her baby.  If the woman had taken the time to find out what she really wanted in her life in the first place then these three or more lives wouldn’t have to live without her.

When we (men and women) don’t find what makes us happy on our own first, then they will never  be happy, or have the ability to make others happy.  People are too willing to rush through life trying this trying that to find their inner happiness.  They are just grabbing at every idea that comes to them instead of really looking for themselves.  I know women who work outside of the house.  They trust other people, people that they really don’t know, to take care of their children.  I thought that was called parenting, now a days it’s called daycare, childcare, babysitters, nannies, or live-ins.  All the while the true parents tell themselves that if they didn’t work then they couldn’t live.  What a load of CRAP.  We live and have lived on one income for over 16 years.  Is it tough; yes.  I’d be a liar if I said that life has been a bed of roses.  We’ve had a lot of up’s and down’s financially over the years.  But through out it all we have had to trust on only God to see us get back up.  Our kids do not get everything that they think that they should have.  Joe and I do not get everything that we think we should or want to have.  But when we look around at what we do have we are so grateful.  We all have learned to appreciate these things and each other more and more.  When I was younger and I had our first child, I just kept saying that at least I became a mother.  Now that I am a little older, I can say, at least I became a mom.  There is a difference.  I wonder what I will be able to say in the years to come.  I pray that my commitment to this role in my life only becomes stronger and stronger.

The Vs.

This week marks the 40th. Year of Roe vs. Wade.  This law has aggravated me (to say the very least) for the longest time.  No more so than when I had my first miscarriage.  Losing my first son almost did me in.  I was angry at the world and I didn’t care that I was losing myself in the process.  I was young, had just left my first husband and living with my parents.  Not the ideal situation.  And then to lose the one good thing I had going for me….. I felt like my life was going nowhere very fast.

I had my second miscarriage after I was married to Joe.  We lost a girl.  Again, my life went into shambles.  The one and only thing that got me through both miscarriages is knowing that Jesus carried both of them to heaven and were with God All Mighty.   Without knowing that I would have never made it.  There were so many people who wanted me to have an abortion when I was pregnant the first time.  I still don’t understand why people believe that a child is something to be killed and then thrown away as if it was like week old trash and was stinking up the house.  I have spent some time listening to the tapes dealing with the court hearings on Roe vs. Wade and the one thing that sent me reeling was when the lawyer said the baby got in her way!!! So that she couldn’t work!!!   They also tried to say that since a baby couldn’t vote, then the baby had no rights!  They used the word fetus instead of baby also.  I will not ever call a true tangible gift from God with such a nasty, medical, word.  They stated that abortion was illegal because it protected the mother.  Whether that was the true reason was never really found out.  But I would say it would be just another good reason.

Maybe I feel a little more strong on this issue than some.  Solely for the reason that had it became law two years early, I wouldn’t be here right now, nor any of my kids.  You see, I grew up being told that my mom (who was 16 when she had me) she didn’t want me and my dad(who was 19) he did.  I was the reason that they even got married.  This knowledge only set me with emotional boundaries with the people who I had to rely on to guide me through life.  This is probably the reason I am so over protective with my children.  I want no harm to come to them.  And although I couldn’t protect them as well as my emotions want to, I think I have done a pretty good job so far.  Although I still have times when I look back and tell myself that I maybe could have handled a situation or two a bit better.  This is where my prayers come in so much better than just letting come what may.

I absolutely loathe that law.  I can understand that there may come a time when a woman might (and that is a big might) have to choose between her life and the life of her baby.  Easy choice for me, the baby comes first.  I made that choice when Joey was born.  I told myself that no matter what was happening to me, there was no reason for them to save me and not him.  I even had Joe promise me before they put me under for an emergency C-section.  I had preeclampsia.  I’m told when he came out, he was blue.  He had to have been the most beautiful baby I had ever seen.  Yes, I know every mother says that about their child.  But after losing two, and having this one, my life was so complete.

I do not care how long or short you have been pregnant, that baby has a right to live.  So many in the world want children and yet can’t.  So many precious lives have been lost to this law.  The world is so lost in this knowledge.  When one hears of someone losing a child, whether it be due to a high-risk pregnancy, an auto accident, or illness, people act and say as if they feel bad for them.  So then why don’t people feel bad or act sad if a woman has an abortion?  Women don’t want to have to go through any inconvenience for nine months and then allow someone else to get the prize at the end of it.  No they want to be allowed to have sex with anyone, kill the baby so they can live the life that they want at that moment.  Selfishness!  Just plain Selfishness.  These women want to be taken care of instead of trying to understand what a privilege it is to take care of a baby who will grow into a productive adult.  The truly sad part is that babies have been killed even longer than most people know.  In Biblical times people who worshiped pagan gods would sacrifice their first born to them.  In other countries, babies are just tossed aside if they are not the desired sex.  Throughout thousands of years babies, who can’t  talk, or crawl, or walk to these parents to get them to understand that they are people just like them, are killed.  Pray for all of the unborn babies.  Those who have been gone in the past and for those who will be gone in the future.

Pick A Side, Any Side

I am sure that by now everyone has heard about the controversy dealing with Chick-fil-A.  If not, here you go.  http://www.christianpost.com/news/chick-fil-a-flap-flips-to-frat-food-fight-78843/  I happen to agree with Dan Cathy.  I am also very proud of him as a Christian for standing up for what he morally believes in.  It’s hard to hear “regular everyday church going” Christians doing that.  Everyone is so afraid that they are going to offend someone that they don’t even care that they are offending God when they don’t express their own belief in Him.

Now I happen to have found out about all of this through facebook, since I liked both the Christian Post and Chick-fil-A.  When I first read the article, I got quite upset that people were right off the bat, angry with Chick-fil-A, angry with other people comments.  People started calling names, threats came in droves and a call for a boycott was placed.  I do not understand how it is that a country who claims that it is a melting pot for all can attack people just for saying what they believe in, even if it goes against what they believe in.

When I had heard of JC Pennys going “gay” in their ads, I stopped shopping there.  I did my own boycott.  The reason is because they are promoting something that I do not want associated in my or my family’s life.  And the only people until now that I told was my family.  I didn’t slam them on fb, twitter, or even here on my site.  I don’t need to.  I am doing what I feel is right on my moral beliefs.  I do not dis-associate with homosexuals just because they are homosexual.  I do not call them names or verbally or physically attack them.  No, I do try to set a Biblical example not only for them but for my family as well.  Because aside from praying for them, that is all I can do.  The people who were making their comments against CFA, did not only attack Dan Cathy but they felt the need to attack all Christians with comments like:

“Do you people even know any facts? Fact: they fund hate groups that are listed on the same list with the Klu Klux Klan. Fact: they lied about pulling their muppet toys because of defects. Fact: they made up some fake supporter and got busted. So they discriminate, fund hate, lie, and deceive. I guess they are typical Christians.”    “Of course it does Xeelee. That makes it easier to choose and pick which “sins” are acceptable. It must really be convenient when your God hates all the same people you do” Just for a few.  And for every attack there were counter attacks like:

“Name calling good. Then I am called the hater for being a Christian. I am going have a Chicken Sandwich with my WIFE and biological children. I won’t even have to worry about a gay man trying to sodomize me or pedophile my son or daughter.”   ” When a man voices his view supporting traditional family values in a Christian magazine, in no way being offensive, not only is he entitled to freedom of speech, but the gay activists go on sites like that just to find things to make issues. Clearly this was the case. They support “traditional” families. That would also they exclude single parents, co-cohabiting straight couples (with or without kids), and non-legal married couples (including illegal immigrants).

Eat more chicken! If you are a Christian and buy into this stupid boycott, take the time to ask yourself if you aren’t being deceived. You aren’t hating gay people by saying that you believe marriage should be set apart for men and women. I love gay people. The fight has become not an issue of marriage equality but to bring down the institution of marriage all together.”

Many other companies are now getting involved one way or another.  There will be those who believe in God and there will be those who do not believe in God.  I wonder if Dan Cathy was a muslin and made a statement about that belief if the outcome would have been the same.  There truly is no need for name calling or threats.  If you don’t agree with Dan Cathy fine. If you do fine.  Just be careful as to who it is that you feel the need to attack no matter which side you are on.  One never knows when, if ever they might need said person for something important like organ/blood transplant, or if a disaster hit your  home and you need to stay at their house.

I Do…Well I Did Part 1

Do as you will.  As long as it makes you happy.  You have to do what is best for you.  Sound familiar?  When it comes to marriage, people are only looking at themselves.  He doesn’t make me happy anymore.  I fell out of love. I only stayed for the sake of the kids.  I’m too young to have to endure this for the rest of my life. I’ve prayed about it; God just isn’t doing anything. I’ve tried everything; Nothing seems to work.   Really!?!

Why did you get married in the first place?  Did you truly love your spouse when you swore an oath to stay with that person no matter what (For better or worse) for the rest of your life?  God is quite clear on His view of marriage.  It is extremely precious to Him.  Nearly half of marriages end in divorce today in the United States.  This saddens me to the core.  And if you do your research, you will see that it is women who are filing for the divorce more than the men.  Is it because they were beaten, their husband abuses substances, or he cheated on her? Some times this is the reason. And these are actual reasons. However, the overwhelming excuse is because the wife isn’t happy: (delighted, pleased, or glad, as over a particular thing) or doesn’t feel appreciated: (to be grateful or thankful for) anymore.  Poor thing. Can you say selfish?  I don’t know of any marriage vows that state ” I will so long as you…..” Her focus is on herself.  Not on her husband and not on God.  She is no longer willing to sacrifice for her marriage.  She is no longer willing to work on keeping her promise to both God and man.  Women are no longer prepared for marriage as young ladies.  It’s every woman for her self.  You might hear of a “sisterhood” among women, but it is usually geared toward the woman getting the most out of whatever the subject might be.  Entitlement is what these women seek.  “I’m entitled (I deserve)to be happy.”  They do not feel the joy and happiness in serving their spouse.

Women have told me that when they were first married, (The honeymoon years) that they would have bent over backwards for their man.  Then over time they have allowed other things to fill up their days.  Jobs, kids, family, friends, self.  They have stretched themselves out to the point of “no return”. When they get to this point they know that they have to give something up in order to keep their sanity. And what do they choose? Their husbands.  They have placed everything else as a higher priority than the man who loves them. They have forgotten how to keep their husbands interested in them.  They have forgotten the joy they got when they did something for their husband that made him love her more.  They have forgotten Who made them and why.  After God, Three in One, your husband should be next in line.  Not the job. Not the kids. Not family and friends. And certainly not yourself.

There are numerous books out there that talk about how to have a good marriage.  There is only one that truly counts.  When you read it, you will find that God tells us how to behave in every situation of our lives.  Including marriage. Tomorrow I will be going through some of the scriptures that guide women through marriage.

The Vows We Take

Just who are you married to?

For those of you who may not know, my marriage to my husband I hold in high regard. If anyone were to attack it, in any way, shape, or form, I would diffidently go for the kill. However, I have another marriage that holds more importance than that I have with my husband. The vows that I have made to God are above all other vows I have made.  I can not imagine my life without my marriage to Him.  Well, to be honest, there have been times in my life when I had left him.  I didn’t realize it at the time.  It wasn’t as though I no longer believed in Him.  Or in all that He is, or does, or will do.  But I was not following the way I should have been.  I was not committed in every aspect of my life.  I still have trouble with it at times.  I only know of one person who didn’t have trouble with it; Jesus.

I go throughout my day trying to get things done with God in mind of it all.  But by the end of the day, when I am going over everything that has happened, I find mistakes, slips, miss ups.  During this time, asking for forgiveness in prayer is the only way to find peace with it.  I have said several times that I have control issues.  Quite honestly, I think everyone does in certain aspects of their lives.  I do think that whether we realize it or not, we have “I am god of myself” syndrome in different aspects of our life. We get up and take care of ourselves before we even thank God for a new day.  We eat without remembering that He supplies our food.  We work without knowing the abilities that was given to us or why. We go to bed without realizing the trust of protection around us.

As we grow up, and as we have children, we have been taught and we teach (At least I hope you are teaching) manners.  One main one is saying Thank You.  When someone does something nice for you, do you not feel better when you thank that person?  I know that I certainly do. Because I want that person to know that I appreciated them.  I also love it when I get a thank you.  Don’t you?  But unfortunately, not everyone even thinks to say it, even after the fact.

Are we not showing that we take for granted all that is freely given to us?  We should seriously think and rethink about whether or not we are giving 100% to God.  Remember, marriage is 100/100.  It is not, well if I remember or feel like it, I’ll give……maybe.  There are those who will only do something if they see something that they can gain from doing it.  Instead of realizing that they have already received the greatest gift.  The gift of salvation.  Not only when we take the time to pray, we should come to Him with a humble attitude.  But all throughout the day.  Look around at the splendor.  God has graciously shown you his love all around.  Circumstances should not be what drives you to do anything.  Circumstances change everyday, along with your attitude in dealing with them.  God’s love never changes.  We may only be blessed with a deeper understanding of it. How strong are your vows to God?  When you said yes to Him, did you say yes to all that He has to offer?  We are to look to the treasure that we gather in Heaven and not the corruptible items or ideas of this world.

There are many people who re-new their vows after being married for so many years.  Some go all out and have all the bells and whistles that they did the first time that they got married.  Others, keep things quite and simple. Now matter which way people go about it, with whistles, simple or maybe somewhere in between the words they exchange never change. Although Gods never needs to re-new any vows to us, maybe it is time to think about renewing ours to Him.  Ask yourself, “Am I truly in a marriage with God?”  He waits patiently for us and while He waits, He still makes your days, gives you abilities, supplies, and protects.

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