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Where Does Your Empowerment Lie

Women have, since the beginning of my knowledge, been fighting among each other and men. Between being equal with men and being working moms or not. I could write several books on the ups and downs of women’s rights and the feminist movement. Oh wait, those have already been done. And yet we don’t really see any coming together of women as a whole.

Women claim to want empowerment, meaning: to give power or authority to; authorize, especially by legal or official means. It is unfortunate that women only think about how to get power or above others instead of how to work together for the greater good of God and His people. No matter what sex or race they may be. I tell my children that women are capable of doing everything that a man can do, and sometimes even better, however that doesn’t mean that we (women) have to or should. I have also told my children that there will always be somebody who will be able to do something better than they can. And there are several reasons for this, like desire, drive, education, support etc.

I have known women to turn on others simply because they felt that they didn’t have any power and that the other woman does. It doesn’t matter. Titus 3: 1-3 Remind them to be subject to rulers and authorities, to obey, to be ready for every good work, to speak evil of no one, to be peaceable, gentle, all humility to all men. For we ourselves were also once foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving various lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful and hating one another. When there is a job to do women are capable of doing it. But instead of admiring the women doing said job, they attack.

God has already empowered women. Women have thrown away the gifts of life, nurturing and love and all for their hunger of power. These women feel the lack of control in their life. Instead of embracing the changes going on around them, they go into the fight or flight mode. Fighting, by putting down everyone around them, because they disagree with them. Flying by claiming to be victims of whatever the problem was. Because of these actions, women are on their own making life even harder on themselves and others.

Placing your energy on your God-given gifts into others instead of yourself will make you one of the most powerful, intelligent, influential persons within your circle of people. Matthew 5: 13 You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men. Our lives are not to be lived out by what we think but by what God has told us. During which time, He never said it would be easy or that we would like it. Only that it brings Glory to Him.


We Just Need To Practice

Hey there everyone,

I hope that everyone had a safe and happy Christmas and New Year.  I most certainly did.  My oldest came home from college for Christmas, my daughter turned 17 (She is making me and the hubby old very fast.)  She also got a job right before her birthday (Which is one week before Christmas).  We all celebrated my three holidays together at home with no big hoop la.  Which was just fine with all of us.

At the beginning of each year you might be finding yourself looking back.  People like to see what if anything they got accomplished and what they didn’t.  They make new goals for the upcoming months.  They try to adopt new, better habits.  One thing I have found is that they don’t set these out on a day-to-day basis.  No they spread them out over an entire year.  Yes, I realize that there are some that may take that long.  But ask yourself when you wake up in the morning, what is the first thing that comes to your mind? Is it the tasks that need to be done? Or perhaps a soreness/pain you may have for sleeping different then you needed.  I could list a whole number of things that ; not only have I said to myself, but have heard others as well.  We are to begin each day a new. With the joy of the Lord.   Not with bitterness or need.  In order to do this all it takes is …… practice.  Practice means that you are trying each and every day with all you mind, body, and soul.  Practice means you won’t get it perfected or even do it some days.  It means you are trying.  That you are actually doing it with a good heart.  Practice mean you have taken you out of it and are doing it for the Lord.

I don’t understand why people are putting so much disgust on themselves at the beginning of each year.  They haven’t lost enough weight, gotten any healthier, saved enough money, given enough money and so on. So what?!? Do the best you can with what you have daily and let God handle the rest.  Before you know it; it will be a new healthier, happier, habit and a wonderful start to your day.  Now for those who might be keeping score, I know that I didn’t write a whole lot last year, but within that time that I did these are the words I used most.


Angels, Bible, Child, Children, Christ, Christian, Church, Churches, Control, Faith, Family, Glory, God, Good, Gospel, Grace, Hear, Hearts, Jesus, Kids, Learn, Lessons, Life, Listen, Lord, Love, Luke, Man, Marriage, Matthew, Mercy, Mistakes, MS, Music, ORU, Parents, Pastor, People, Religion, Speak, Spirit, Trouble, Women, Word, Work.


I like to leave you with a song that I heard on a CD that my sister had a long time ago.  The song might be an old one but it still holds.


The Attack is ON

Ok, so lately (like the last 15 years or so), we have been under attack.  We Americans, We Christians, We married, We stay at home moms.  Now I’m not a person who likes to go looking for a fight, but enough is enough.  Recently, we (Americans) were under attack in Boston.  The hubby and I just happened to have the t.v. on the Fox channel and watched in shock and not so shocked amazement.  We are shocked over the fact that people still have so little care over killing people that they don’t even know.  Killing people of all ages, nationalities, and beliefs.  People, who have put everything aside, who have been training for who knows how long,  to compete in a physical race that most of us wouldn’t even know how to begin except for placing our feet on the starting line.  And after the first line of bloodshed and mayhem, we then pray.  We pray for everyone.  All of those who were running, all who were waiting on the side for their loved ones, all those who were volunteering  all those who went running towards the destruction instead of running away, all those who couldn’t contact each other, all of the doctors and nurses who would have to deal with the trauma coming  through the hospital doors.

We were not so shocked that there are still terrorists running around in our country.  We were not so shocked that the government messed up (again) in allowing them to be here.  We were not so shocked that they were able to get the supplies that they needed to pull of this mass destruction.  And sadly we were not so shocked to see that they, (the ones who pulled it off)  were so young.

When I am asked to pray for someone, I do it with my full heart and soul.  Because I believe in the power of prayer.  But if I express my belief in the Bible or of Jesus, I get criticized for doing it.  I get labeled a hater. All over twitter and Facebook people were sending out words of encouragement and prayers.  I did not see one person telling another to stop.  I did however see a lot of people asking for more and more prayer though.  Funny, how when they don’t see what else can be done by them, they turn to the Christian and ask them to pray.  Without a moment of hesitation or guilt for the words they had just used to try to cut you down with.

If you are married to the opposite sex, lookout!  You are going to (if you haven’t already) get hit with mean and ugly looks from those who are trying to get away with marrying the same-sex.  I’ll be quite honest with you, when I was a teen, I rarely saw or heard about homosexuals.  When I did, I thought that it was a “phase or trendy” thing that would go away with some time (or when common sense kicked in).  But now, I supposed to believe that my marriage is in the minority of what people think is acceptable!  I think that these are the people who need the most prayer.  I do believe that they are lost in what is the difference between right and wrong.

And now I’ve got this Melissa Harris-Perry lady telling the world that their children, my children don’t “belong” to me.  That they belong to the community! What a load of bull!!!  After I raise them they become a part of the community that they choose to live in.  In the manner that they choose to live. Not the community telling me how to raise my child that God gave to me.  I don’t go at this alone.  I have God, my husband, my friends and family on both sides, and Church.  And I would love to see if (which I am really thinking that this is the case) she is trying to get God and the Church out of my children’s lives.  And then at the end of her little video she has “lead forward”, which is an attempt to show that she supports Obama. Here is the link to the video if you would like to see it.   http://www.nbcnews.com/id/51498490/t/caring-children-share-your-story/#.UXi7OaJJ7DM      As if that is in her favor.  Not where I am concerned it isn’t.

So now I sit here typing as all of my rights are being taken away from me and I’m not supposed to do anything about it.  I am no longer allowed to be me, myself in a land that I was born in, which is supposed to be free.  Which is supposed to have given me rights and has had those rights upheld for hundred of years from men, and now women, who have died for you and me.  Yes, my friend, the attack in on.  I’ll just leave you with these few scriptures to think about before you leave.  John 7:7  The world cannot hate you; but me it hateth, because I testify of it, that the works thereof are evil.    2 Peter 2:12-15    But these, as natural brute beasts, made to be taken and destroyed, speak evil of the things that they understand not; and shall utterly perish in their own corruption; And shall receive the reward of unrighteousness, as they that count it pleasure to riot in the day time.  Spots they are and blemishes, sporting themselves with their own deceivings while they feast with you; Having eyes full of adultery, and that cannot cease from sin; beguiling unstable souls: an heart they have exercised with covetous practices; cursed children: Which have forsaken the right way , and are gone astray, following the way of Balaam the son of Bo-sor, who loved the wages of unrighteousness;


Have you chosen the priorities of your life?  On the other hand, have you allowed God to choose them for you?

Whether you are aware of it or not, He already has and just waits on you to see what He has laid out for you.  Throughout the Bible we are shown that, we are to love the Lord first and above all others.  And it is only then that we move on to family and home.  Once we can do those (and don’t worry, no one does it completely the way they think they should) Then we are to move on to our ministry.  These are commandments from God Himself.  When God commands something from us, he also gives us the gift of choice.  You get to choose whether to do as commanded.  The problem I see is that when people are given a choice they look at what they think is best for them rather than what God has already said is best for them.  When people try to figure what is best for them, they have placed themselves above everyone else.


Things come and go in life.  Trouble and blessings come and go.  People come and go.  God is forever!  No matter what may be happening in your life right now or in the future.  One’s life should not be controlled by the comings and goings.  I have made a lot (understatement) of sacrifices in my life so that I can show who I am as a child of God and as a wife and mom.  I do not allow the troubles or problems to change the direction I am taking.  And because of that, there are a lot of people who stay away from me.  Not because I’m mean, but because they feel that if they stay with me that they too will have to allow God to change their life so that they are in line with Him and not be allowed to keep living the way they want.  I have been told that I am a strong woman, a very strict mom, that I am out of touch with the “real world”, and that I don’t know how things “really” work.


If they only knew.  I am the happiest woman when I talk to God and allow Him to take care of any problem for me, no matter how big or small it may be.  It is such a privilege to get to have God on my side and worship him rather than breathing life to trouble that comes around.  I would have to say that the hardest part of all of that is trying to get my own children to see the world the same way.  They are out in it more than I am.  Their friends are huge influences and their parents for the most part do not see the world as such a bad place.  I disagree with women being in certain careers.  My daughter does not.  I disagree with women having higher power than men do.  My children do not.  I have to learn how to make the life I already have look more appealing to them than the world does.  On my own, this would be impossible.  But I know that nothing is impossible for God.  Therefore, I will leave the opening of their eyes and hearts to Him.  And keep doing what I am doing alongside of God.  Because I know that troubles and problems won’t stop coming at me.  I know that the closer I get to God the stronger and faster they will come and attack.  My oldest children are just starting to understand when we say to them that the older you get the harder life gets.  There is more expected of you.  And I get to laugh when they tell me that they want to be a kid again.  Because they are kids, who are learning that life is serious business.  Playtime is almost over for them.  The world however is still playing.  They have no priorities above themselves.  And if they don’t like the way the game is played, they simply change the rules to fit their so-called needs. 

From Mother To Mom

The other day while I was looking around the net, there was a comment left on a site asking for advice for a mom who wanted to go off and do what she wanted to do in life.  This was her first child and she claims that she knows the importance on staying at home with her child but she wanted “me” time and was really asking for permission to go to work and do what she wanted to do.  She was feeling guilty and wanted the ok from someone so that she could justify it to herself. All I could do was just sit there stunned at the thought of her putting her child on the back burner and placing herself of higher priority.

Unfortunately, this happens all the time.  Woman thinks she wants a husband, woman gets her husband.  Woman thinks she wants a baby or two, woman gets a baby or two.  Woman thinks she wants a job, woman gets a job.  Woman doesn’t understand that “her time” is gone from the moment she said the ” I do’s”.  She has then committed to sharing her life with her husband.  She has then committed to sharing her life with her baby.  If the woman had taken the time to find out what she really wanted in her life in the first place then these three or more lives wouldn’t have to live without her.

When we (men and women) don’t find what makes us happy on our own first, then they will never  be happy, or have the ability to make others happy.  People are too willing to rush through life trying this trying that to find their inner happiness.  They are just grabbing at every idea that comes to them instead of really looking for themselves.  I know women who work outside of the house.  They trust other people, people that they really don’t know, to take care of their children.  I thought that was called parenting, now a days it’s called daycare, childcare, babysitters, nannies, or live-ins.  All the while the true parents tell themselves that if they didn’t work then they couldn’t live.  What a load of CRAP.  We live and have lived on one income for over 16 years.  Is it tough; yes.  I’d be a liar if I said that life has been a bed of roses.  We’ve had a lot of up’s and down’s financially over the years.  But through out it all we have had to trust on only God to see us get back up.  Our kids do not get everything that they think that they should have.  Joe and I do not get everything that we think we should or want to have.  But when we look around at what we do have we are so grateful.  We all have learned to appreciate these things and each other more and more.  When I was younger and I had our first child, I just kept saying that at least I became a mother.  Now that I am a little older, I can say, at least I became a mom.  There is a difference.  I wonder what I will be able to say in the years to come.  I pray that my commitment to this role in my life only becomes stronger and stronger.

I Do….Well I Did Part 3

I have been searching the web and I have found that there are roughly more women who write blogs then men.  Although the men are catching up.  I visit a lot of blogs myself.  Most of them are from women writers.  They talk about everything under the sun.  Typical things like beauty products, fashion, and women’s physical issues.  Then there are those who talk about how to be a mom.  The in’s and out’s of it.  You have some who talk about their personal walk with God. You have some who talk about their families walk with God.  Then you have others that twist and turn everything that would make a woman a good wife, mother, and even a good woman into something evil.  You know, the man haters. There are many, many more, on even more and more subjects for women. I have been seeing quite a few lately that talk about comparing life now to life in the 40’s and 50’s.  Most of them have the view of “That was the life.”  Because they can see the simplicity of life if we don’t allow others to sway us.  I would like to encourage you to visit some of the sites yourself and see if you can relate to them.  You might find that you have a June Cleaver in you yet. A June Cleaver that you enjoy being.

We see what a wife is to do in Titus 2:5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.  Look at the key words. Discreet: Careful.  Chaste: Refraining from sexual intercourse that is regarded as contrary to morality or religion; virtuous.  Homemaker: A person who manages the household of her own family, especially as a principal occupation.  Blasphemed:to speak impiously or irreverently of (God or sacred things.)  Now ask yourself does this describe you?  If not then where do you need to work on your life?  It can be hard to see in a mirror sometimes.  You may need to ask.  The best person to ask is your husband.  We can also look at 1 Peter where he speaks about wives submission to their husbands.  Read verse 4 carefully: rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.   Did you catch that.  A gentle and quiet spirit.  Not someone who is spouting off, “Bring it on!”

Now if you have read about Sarah you know that she was not always a gentle and quiet spirit.  She was first Sarai which has the Hebrew meaning of argumentative.  It was God who changed her. It was God who renamed her to Sarah meaning princess.  It wasn’t until she took herself to Him and stayed with Him that she changed.  There are several other women in the Bible that also have a gentle and quiet spirit.  Because of this, God found favor with them and blessed them.  These weren’t women that were looking to get ahead in the world, or fighting to have jobs.  They weren’t trying to keep up with the Jones’s.  They were living for the Lord.  They placed Him first, then their husbands, and others around them.  They put their wants aside to please God. And they did it with joy in their hearts.  They yearned to please God.  They followed His word and kept the meaning of it in their hearts.  And it showed to everyone who encountered them.

For this reason, those women got all the attention, appreciation, and respect that the women of today are looking for.  I could go into a lot more on the book of Titus and 1 Peter, and maybe someday I will, but for now I would like you to just ponder or meditate on the scriptures above.  Are you yearning to please God?  Are you making decisions of being a wife according to the scriptures?  To be a wife is a blessing in its self.  It comes with great responsibility. Responsibilities that only you can do.  These are love responsibilities given to us by Love.  You can not be loving to your husband if you are not first and foremost loving God.  Your husband can not love you in the truest form that he has, if you are not first loving God.  We don’t get to pick and choose what we are to do.  We have been clearly told by Love.  1 John 4:16 And we have known and believed the love that God has for us. God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God in him.

I Do…Well I Did Part 1

Do as you will.  As long as it makes you happy.  You have to do what is best for you.  Sound familiar?  When it comes to marriage, people are only looking at themselves.  He doesn’t make me happy anymore.  I fell out of love. I only stayed for the sake of the kids.  I’m too young to have to endure this for the rest of my life. I’ve prayed about it; God just isn’t doing anything. I’ve tried everything; Nothing seems to work.   Really!?!

Why did you get married in the first place?  Did you truly love your spouse when you swore an oath to stay with that person no matter what (For better or worse) for the rest of your life?  God is quite clear on His view of marriage.  It is extremely precious to Him.  Nearly half of marriages end in divorce today in the United States.  This saddens me to the core.  And if you do your research, you will see that it is women who are filing for the divorce more than the men.  Is it because they were beaten, their husband abuses substances, or he cheated on her? Some times this is the reason. And these are actual reasons. However, the overwhelming excuse is because the wife isn’t happy: (delighted, pleased, or glad, as over a particular thing) or doesn’t feel appreciated: (to be grateful or thankful for) anymore.  Poor thing. Can you say selfish?  I don’t know of any marriage vows that state ” I will so long as you…..” Her focus is on herself.  Not on her husband and not on God.  She is no longer willing to sacrifice for her marriage.  She is no longer willing to work on keeping her promise to both God and man.  Women are no longer prepared for marriage as young ladies.  It’s every woman for her self.  You might hear of a “sisterhood” among women, but it is usually geared toward the woman getting the most out of whatever the subject might be.  Entitlement is what these women seek.  “I’m entitled (I deserve)to be happy.”  They do not feel the joy and happiness in serving their spouse.

Women have told me that when they were first married, (The honeymoon years) that they would have bent over backwards for their man.  Then over time they have allowed other things to fill up their days.  Jobs, kids, family, friends, self.  They have stretched themselves out to the point of “no return”. When they get to this point they know that they have to give something up in order to keep their sanity. And what do they choose? Their husbands.  They have placed everything else as a higher priority than the man who loves them. They have forgotten how to keep their husbands interested in them.  They have forgotten the joy they got when they did something for their husband that made him love her more.  They have forgotten Who made them and why.  After God, Three in One, your husband should be next in line.  Not the job. Not the kids. Not family and friends. And certainly not yourself.

There are numerous books out there that talk about how to have a good marriage.  There is only one that truly counts.  When you read it, you will find that God tells us how to behave in every situation of our lives.  Including marriage. Tomorrow I will be going through some of the scriptures that guide women through marriage.

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